3 April 2019

They tried to make me go to Stroke Rehab - I said no, no, no

It is with an incredibly heavy heart that I am writing and publishing this deeply personal blog about a local service, which is not just found wanting but is in fact, failing.

Starting on a couple of positives. My Mom died at Walsall Manor Hospital in the Intensive Care Unit. The care she received was fantastic. She had been a patient on that ward and also the High Dependency Unit there previously and again, her care had been faultless. My youngest has been a patient on the children's ward several times, again the care was good.

Dad had a stroke on 7th February. Within an hour of him having that stroke he was in A&E at New Cross Hospital, Wolverhampton and he was given the best possible chance of making a recovery from the stroke because of the quick and efficient response of West Midlands Ambulance Service and the quick and efficient actions of the staff on A&E.

The morning after the stroke I was chasing him around the ward because he kept going walkabout. He was mobile and it seemed as though recovery had begun.

He spent the next two weeks on the Acute Stroke Unit at New Cross and the care he received there from nurses, health care assistants, ancillary staff, speech therapists, occupational therapists, doctors, everyone, was fantastic. (There was minor wobble but this was quickly resolved.) There was always someone available to speak to, nurse or doctor. Not once did I have to play hunt the medic.

On the 21st February he was transferred to the Stroke Rehabilitation Unit at the Manor Hospital, Walsall and immediately it all began to fall apart. I totally understand that patients when transferred have to be isolated for the purposes of disease/infection control but Dad was placed in a room on his own for a whole week. It was a rare event for a member of staff to enter the room. He was left alone  for hours and he began to deteriorate.

If I explain, Dad is blind, deaf, elderly and of moderate frailty. The stroke took away is speech. He is therefore unable to communicate in a meaningful way, although now he can respond with a yes or no. At New Cross he smiled an awful lot, in his own way he interacted with the staff and us and he was making progress, he responded well to music and various members of staff would pop a CD in his player so he could enjoy listening because his hearing aid was on. He was fully mobile and continent until unfortunately another health problem meant he had to be fitted with a permanent catheter.

Can you even begin to imagine how he must have felt being isolated for a whole week and being unable to communicate his needs and his unhappiness? He was to be fair, depressed prior to the stroke but I hate to think just how that depression has grown since arriving on Ward 4. His CDs were ignored, he didn't even have his hearing aid on a lot of the time. The first time I arrived on the ward he was unable to arise from the chair he was sitting in because his urine bag had just been thrown on the floor thereby causing a trip hazard for a blind person.

He wasn't helped to eat, we didn't even get a menu to choose his food. He went days without being shaved and even longer without being showered. He withdrew and showed open signs of deep unhappiness.

I played hunt the medic every day to bring attention to staff the shortcomings in his basic care.

Just a few days after arriving on the ward and whilst still being left alone in his solitary room, I was given a discharge date for him. Unbelievable. He was so far from being medically fit for discharge (and remains so) it was untrue and there had been no planning together with therapists of his rehabilitation programme and what realistic targets could be set and hopefully achieved. No, nothing. Just a discharge date. A date at that time that was less than two weeks away. Nobody had bothered to speak about personal circumstances or take into account just how devastated we were feeling or if there were other problems that could perhaps affect how we could handle the situation being presented.

I complained to Patient Liaison. That was a complete waste of time. Things improved for a whole day and then it all returned to how it had been prior to the contact with patient liaison. So I returned to playing hunt the medic and attempting to get Dad the care he needed. I cannot tell you how the stress of this, day in, day out affected me and members of my family. I dread visiting him, not because I don't want to see him but because I know what faces me when I walk onto that ward  I felt as though I was banging my head against a brick wall. I was. I still am. Nobody listens. Well that's a little unfair, some listen, some of the staff care. Some of the staff are incredible but they work on a ward that has a toxic atmosphere and eventually that must drag them down to the level of those common uncaring denominators.

Dad was moved to a bay and seemed to improve a little. At least there was company and more bodies coming in and out, he wasn't being left to rot but basic care was still lacking and there was still no sign of menus. Eventually I pinned this notice behind his bed, hoping to shame staff into attending to the bare necessities.

PLEASE

PUT BOTH DENTURES IN MY MOUTH SO THAT I CAN EAT MY FOOD

PUT MY HEARING AID ON (AND MAKE SURE THAT THE BATTERIES ARE LIVE) SO THAT I CAN HEAR YOU WITHOUT YOU NEEDING TO SHOUT

PUT JUICE INTO MY WATER. I HATE PLAIN WATER

TAKE MY BELT OFF MY TROUSERS WHEN UNDRESSING ME SO THAT I HAVE IT TO KEEP MY TROUSERS UP THE FOLLOWING DAY

MAKE SURE I HAVE SWALLOWED MY MEDICATION

LEAVE A MENU ON MY TABLE FOR MY FAMILY TO COMPLETE SO THAT THEY CAN CHOOSE FOOD THAT I LIKE TO EAT

Dad now refuses food. This is probably because he has lived on corned beef hash or shepherds pie for over a month. He LOATHES mashed potato and yet it is still served up and still no menus arrive to be completed. For two days, they were popped on his table and I completed them. Guess what? They were never collected. Some staff have tried to help by asking about what he likes to eat and trying to obtain it for him (I applaud them)  however, when they are not on duty the toxic attitude returns.

Dad can no longer use his right hand, He can barely lift a drink (still plain water when we are not there) to his mouth and as a consequence he has been treated for dehydration several times in the last two weeks, yet he is left to manage his food alone. I know from his clothes if he has been left to attempt feeding himself because I wash them. If the clothes are reasonably clean then he has been helped, otherwise the food lies in lumps all down his clothes because more has landed on him than in his mouth. Perhaps the only thing he has to look forward to his a decent meal but 9/10 he is denied that.

He was moved to a solitary room again, apparently he had 'sickness and diarrhoea'  He had definitely been sick as his clothes were placed in a bag, unrinsed and rancid, for me to collect but diarrhoea? Not according to his stool chart. It took another complaint to Patient Liaison to get him moved back to a bay.

Recently I have discovered that staff new to the ward have actually been told to just leave his food in front of him. No wonder so little food is being consumed. No wonder he is losing colossal amounts of weight. His cheeks are hollow and you can see and feel his bones. His skin is dry. He smells because he never gets a shower. He rarely gets shaved. He is still being left with plain water. The menus have never arrived. His dentures are not being cleaned and they are not always in his mouth. His hearing aid is frequently left off. He is so frail now he cannot shift his wait in his bedside chair and therefore slips down all the time, trapping his useless right arm. A slip mat was provided to prevent slipping but it is not put in place.

He is deteriorating rapidly due to a lack of care, care that he is entitled to. What do we have to do to elicit any response from senior staff other than a shrug of the shoulders or a grunt? Sometimes they promise to sort things out but it never happens. The ward is a toxic bad joke. I apologise to the good, kind and hard working staff on that ward that do care. Unfortunately you are a minority. If you were a majority I wouldn't be writing this.

By the time my Dad was 7 years old in 1939, his father had died. On Saturdays at that age he used to take the first 3 buses of the day, on his own, from Aldridge to Dudley Port to spend a day working at Hadley's Dairy for which he was paid the princely sum of a shilling (5 pence in new money). He was probably overpaid as there was a family connection. When he had taken those three buses home, he would hand over that shilling to his Mom, my Grandmother. He was given a penny in return for his efforts. He was working full time by the age of 13 and the day before his stroke he had gone to work for the two hours a week he still did. A proud man. A hard working man. A man who has paid his dues all of his life and is entitled to decent healthcare.

I have asked these questions so many times since 21st February. How would you feel if this was your Father being treated with such a lack of care and respect and compassion? Why do you rob him of dignity in his final days?  Why do they feel it is OK to treat my Dad like this?

The emotional toll this is taking is incredible. How this is being allowed to happen on one ward I don't know. Why nobody cares, I don't know. How some of these people keep their jobs, I don't know. It's almost as though they feel so safe and protected they can treat those in their care badly and never feel the consequences. I am in despair.
Why do I publish such a personal thing for everyone to read? The story has to be told. Publishing is the only way anyone takes any notice. So many people suffer in silence and their story is never told or known. This sort of story should be told. People should be aware. Complaints are treated with disdain. Lessons will be learned they say. They never are. Cynical yes. Be aware I love our NHS, the care, compassion and treatment by the majority is second to none anywhere in the world. Unfortunately sometimes you discover little pockets of rot. When you do, you have to speak out in order that the rot does not spread.






27 January 2019

Perceptions of ageing

First blog of a new year and definitely a rambling rant.

Maybe it's because 60 doesn't seem old to me anymore and so my perceptions and ideas are changing but isn't there an awful lot of ageist claptrap spoken about anyone over the age of say 50? I have seen 50. It was glorious to reach 50. Old enough to not care what anyone thought of me any longer and to allow what I thought to be said even if during those 50 years lived I had never exactly been diplomatic. Free from expectation, knowing it was not me being objectified by wolf whistling idiots. At 56, 60 is a booming reality for me and my thoughts turn to my Grandparents at that age. They had lived through two world wars and a depression in between and their bodies had known many privations. I believe that generation grew old well before their time to do so because of the times they had lived through.

It's not just the claptrap either, there are still in these supposedly more enlightened times, the most awful stereotypical thoughts and comments that gush from the mouths and keyboards of those who appear not to see that it is only in the blink of an eye that they too will soon be one of those that they scorn so. I suppose around about your late thirties is when you realise full on that it has been twenty (yes 20!!!) years since you left school and in that same space of years you will be approaching retirement and perhaps pension age if it isn't meddled with further. Then suddenly a few more years down the line, 50,60 and even 70 is not old anymore. Hey those perceptions apply to everyone else, not me. Look at me I am still young, relatively wrinkle free, fairly firm of body and sound of mind. Then by the early forty's things have changed again, the body isn't quite so firm, even if you work at it, certain health issues might start to creep in and you are there thinking to yourself, hey was it only x years ago I was still being asked to prove I was over 21?

In the last ten years ageing has proceeded at a fast pace for me. The hair has greyed, the lines have become more wrinkly and my skin amongst other things, is definitely going south. Gravity - what a pain!

These last few years have seen my face age considerably. It shows around the eyes and the mouth  but hey, am I so internally insecure that plastic surgery, botox, fillers and implants must be the answer in order to maintain a youthful appearance? No, I am bloody well not. I stand here now and say I am proud of every wrinkle, line and grey hair because they all prove that I HAVE LIVED and am still alive!

Those who leave this mortal coil at a young age stay with us forever as youthful and vibrant because that is how they were and that is how they were when they were taken so cruelly from us. They didn't get the opportunity to grow old either gracefully (or disgracefully as I am trying to do) or to feel the regret of youth passing. No.

The signs of life are those wrinkles, lines, grey hairs, saggy skin and bodies. Those signs say, hey I am alive, I have lived, I have enjoyed, I have done something with my life and thought through more than the vanity of trying to keep some perception of youth that in all honesty probably disappeared at 20 only wasn't realised at the time.

Of course it is not just the older people who are subject to disparaging claptrap. It is anyone who is different in some way but that is for someone else to write about. I feel for the young people now who are subjected to a barrage from media outlets and the internet on conforming to certain looks in a constant way that my generation never was and perhaps it is this that also informs those who blast contempt at anyone with grey hair, wrinkles and saggy skin

So I say to all of those who write such disparaging words about anyone older than them, go and get a good and true life that is not composed of obsessing over appearance but at reflecting upon the inner self and growing, maybe even gaining wisdom and then maybe you too will learn to appreciate the beauty of looking at someone who has truly lived and been allowed to live.

23 December 2018

A Journey of Remembrance

Back at the beginning of the month we made our own personal journey of Remembrance to mark the centenary of the end of The Great War. The first part of our journey is recounted HERE.

Following the emotional visit to Sivry, we drove back into France and up to The Guards Cemetery at Windy Corner near Cuinchy, to lay a wreath on the grave of my Great Uncle, William Plant whose life I recounted HERE and who died in a bloody battle on 10 March 1915. It was late in the afternoon and the light was fading fast. It was also pouring with rain and it felt so very bleak at Windy Corner. We laid the wreath and two more of Len's poppies were planted and I thanked William for his sacrifice and reminded him that he is not forgotten either by me or by the people of Aldridge.

We then took a walk around the cemetery and came across this touching tribute to men from another continent who had travelled so far to fight for the Empire and who never made the journey home. The stone reads "To the memory of these six soldiers of the British Empire killed in action in 1915 and buried at the time in Indian Village North Cemetery Festubert whose graves were destroyed in later battles and to the memory of these four Indian Soldiers who fell near Givenchy. Their glory shall not be blotted out".

The wind was howling around us, the rain soaking us and we felt so very cold. My heart went out to these young Indian soldiers who left their warm homes and families for what must have been considered an enormous adventure and have lay for so long now, in the cold hard earth of Northern France, a land that must have seemed so alien to them. I thanked them for their sacrifice and told them that I would not forget them.








Sanctuary Wood
Next morning we arose early and once again crossed the border into Belgium, travelling across Flanders Fields towards Ypres. First stop was Sanctuary Wood just off The Menin Road. Sanctuary Wood was right on the front line of the Western Front and saw fierce fighting throughout The Great War. When the farmer who owned the land returned to it in 1919 he decided to leave part of the trench system exactly how he had found it and although some restoration work has been carried out over the years, you are still left with a complete trench system and relics, more or less how it was a hundred years ago. Of course, trees have grown and when we visited leaves carpeted the ground but it did not require much imagination to see how it would have been.

We visited for several reasons, one of which was that Aiden's Great Grandfather RSM Herbert Goulding of the Lancashire Fusiliers spent his very last Christmas on earth there. Aiden writes very movingly of what the visit meant to him HERE.

We spent a good few hours at Sanctuary Wood both inside the museum and outside in the wood and trenches. Standing in the trenches and looking out over the ground, seeing the craters from bombs and the remnants of barbed wire, it felt desperate, despite the fact that it was so very peaceful and quiet and it would have been anything but just over a hundred years ago. This was the first place that mustard gas was used during the war and inside the museum are 3D photographs that give graphic, amazingly real life vision to the effects that that invisible menace had upon men.


We then followed the Menin Road towards Ypres but taking our time to make a detour to the largest Commonwealth War Graves Commission Cemetery in the world; Tyne Cot. There are nearly 12,000 soldiers buried there of which, only a quarter are identified. That is sobering. This is the site of the infamous Battle of Passchendaele and so those buried here had died here.  On the Eastern Boundary stands a memorial wall, gently curving around the boundary. It bears the names of some 35,000 men of the British and New Zealand forces who have no known grave, nearly all of whom died between August 1917 and November 1918. It is relentless.




Name after name. Regiment after regiment. Such sorrow and suffering represented on this memorial.
It is far too much to comprehend.
All you can do is thank them for their sacrifice and say they are not forgotten.




The first sight of the Menin Gate takes your breath away. It is a magnificent memorial.  During the Great War hundreds of thousands of men from Britain and the Commonwealth marched through the old Menin Gate on the outskirts of Ypres, on their way to the battlefields of the Western Front. The Menin Gate or Ypres Memorial, now stands as a reminder of those who died and have no known grave.  It bears the names of 54,000 men, yes 54,000  who died before 16 August 1917. Again, just like the Tyne Cot memorial, it is unrelenting, columns upon columns of names, in regimental order.


One of those name belongs to my Great Uncle, Lance Corporal Charles Mason of the 4th Battalion, King's Royal Rifle Corps who died on 10 May 1915. Charles is an interesting man whose complete story I have not yet uncovered but I do know that following his brother John Mason's  exploits in the Boer War, Charles left Aldridge where he had spent most of his childhood and he too joined up to fight in South Africa. Unfortunately at barely 16 years old, Charles was unable to cope with military life and twice deserted going absent without leave. Following the second occasion, he was given a dishonourable discharge and returned to Aldridge and civilian life. He moved from Aldridge to Derbyshire between then and the outbreak of the Great War, marrying in 1912 and fathering a son who was born just a few months before the outbreak of war.

On 7th August 1914 a Royal Proclamation was issued offering a blanket pardon for all those who had previously deserted providing they surrounded themselves prior to 4th September. Charles duly did this and was immediately sent to the Western Front. On the 8th May 1915, his battalion were heavily involved in fighting near St Elois. Their trenches were destroyed and Charles was one of the 493 killed between the 8th and 10th of May 1915. He has no known grave. His name was far too high overhead for me to reach out and touch, so I placed a poppy in a ledge as close as I possibly could to where his name is etched. I thanked him for his sacrifice and told him he was not forgotten.


We walked outside of the memorial onto the ramparts that surround Ypres to be confronted with a heart stopping sight. Thousands of handmade wooden poppies, each with a message from someone in the UK, to say thank you to those named on the memorial and to show they are not forgotten. It was a beautiful memorial to commemorate the centenary of the end of the war.

We then took a stroll around Ypres, a town that was destroyed during the conflict of the Great War but was rebuilt as if it was still the medieval  town it had been and now you cannot tell that actually, the buildings are all less than one hundred years old, such a wonderful job has been done.

Just by the famous cloth hall stands Ypres own war memorial to their own dead from the town. In a place where so many foreign men passed through and then lost their lives, where those foreigners have memorials and cemeteries at virtually every corner, it would be easy to forget that the Belgium people had their own army fighting alongside all the others. They suffered threefold. They were invaded first by one foreign army and then were joined in defence and attack against those first invaders by other foreign armies. They were occupied and they suffered and they lost their own young men. I stood and looked at the memorial to those local men and I acknowledged their sacrifice and remembered them.

21 December 2018

Christmas Past

I sit writing this listening to classical Christmas carols and music, reminding me of how my Christmases of childhood were, full of music and carols.

Music was important to my Mom and to her family. There was piano both at home, at my maternal Grandparents and also my Uncle's homes. Mom could be heard making her preparations singing at the full throttle of her glorious soprano voice, either singing for the sheer joy of it or practicing for choral concerts or carol services, as there was always a choir that she belonged to. A consequence is that there are very few carols and Christmas songs that I do not know all the words to! Mr Bennett, the Head Teacher at Redhouse Junior School can take some credit too. Wednesday mornings at school were hymn practice and Mr Bennett appeared to enjoy banging the keys for all they worth, from one end of the keyboard to the other, singing with gusto the hymns and carols that he was teaching us.

For a few Christmases in succession my siblings and I along with Mom, Dad, my Uncle and Aunt and some of their friends, went around Council run elderly people's homes to sing a few carols. Some were in old Victorian houses and some purpose built homes where we would stand in the stair wells with all the doors open so every resident could hear from ground to top floors. On the whole I think these visits proved popular with the residents apart from the year when our visit coincided with the final episode ever of Upstairs Downstairs and I would leave having had my head flattened from the pats on the head I received.

As Christmas day approached my Grandmother would go into baking overdrive and a frenzy of activity could be joined in her kitchen making cakes and mince pies, she always encouraged us to join in and help, a direct opposite of my Mother who preferred to do these things on her own. Mind Mom had a tiny kitchen, not enough room to swing a cat as she often told us whilst Nan's kitchen had a table and chairs, although on reflection, it too was small. I can still taste Nan's pastry now, such a light touch she had. Her mince pies were to die for and I recall sneaking into her walk in pantry, quietly opening one of the tins and then devouring a mince pie in one.You couldn't do that too often though as she would notice!

I now know that my Mom used to wind the clock forward once I had learned to tell the time, so that there was no argument over bedtimes. The clock said seven and therefore you went to bed. Goodness knows how early we were actually put to bed on Christmas Eve in order to allow her some peace, quiet and valuable adult time!

I never ever found where Mom hid the presents prior to Christmas Day however, I suspect I didn't look because Mom was the most convincing story teller ever. When we saw the odd present that had been purchased she told us that it had to be put out on the roof for Father Christmas to collect prior to Christmas Eve. Apparently he had a special airplane specifically for the purpose and took all the presents to the North Pole where he held them with the other presents and of course if we didn't behave and we ended up on the naughty list, those presents would not be delivered on the special night.

Christmas morning was a wonder and a delight. Despite the fact that I was one of the naughtiest children ever, Father Christmas always came up trumps and made the journey to my bedroom. I think that he knew that in my heart I wanted to be good but just found being good extremely difficult. Our presents were delivered in sacks (pillow cases) and left at the end of our beds, with larger presents being placed downstairs. Despite my exuberance and innate mischievousness I would never under any circumstances start opening my presents from the sacks until I had been told that I could. The consequences were to severe to risk! I still think it may have been a 6am start for Mom and Dad though! I would lie in my bed, shuffling down towards the bottom and feeling with my toes for that sack of delights, unable to return to sleep, whilst the smell of the turkey roasting over a very low heat overnight drifted upstairs from the kitchen, making my stomach ache for the delights of the feast to come.

My Grandfather would have been busy in the weeks before Christmas renovating and painting larger presents such as prams, pushchairs, miniature wheelie shopping trolleys and one year a bicycle, that were all purchased second hand and making them look brand new. The discovery that this was done came many years later. I had no idea that some of my presents were not brand new. It didn't matter, I was always so delighted with everything that I had.

Presents that still stick in my mind 50 years later. The poncho that Auntie Edna had crotched at the time when ponchos were the height of fashion. Sindy doll and accessories and in later years the clothes that my Auntie Val made and knitted for them. Fuzzy felt, I loved those. My first bicycle - freedom! The Tiny Tears my sister got one year, I was so jealous! Felt tip pens, the height of sophistication. Spirograph, oh my, I spent months trying to reproduce the patterns and never really succeeded.

Once the sacks of presents had been opened it was downstairs to open the 'big stuff' but we waited whilst Mom made up the coal fire in the living room. All morning we would be playing with our new toys whilst Mom got on with Christmas dinner. Dad would drive over to my Grandparents mid morning to pick them up and then he and Grandad would disappear to the pub/club at noon for a pint or two. Mom and Nan would put the finishing touches to the dinner and then the feast would be on. Like everyone my Mom made the best Christmas dinner ever!

Everyone would be dressed in their 'best clothes'. Me and my sister would have a brand new dress to put on and my brother I recall would have new trousers, a shirt and dicky bow tie. Mom would be totally glamorous, nails and hair done, make up supreme and of course, a new dress, whilst Nan who never wore make up would have had her hair done the night before by Mom. The men would all be in suits, wearing ties which, as the day progressed, gradually loosened.

We would have to be quiet whilst the Queen did her speech at 3pm, then time for the Christmas Day film and then before you know it, Mom and Nan would be loading the table with yet more food for our Christmas tea.

Boxing Day we would go to my Grandparents house or one of my Uncle's homes. I enjoyed Boxing Day almost as much as Christmas Day, cold turkey, pickles, chocolate, cakes, pies, songs around the piano, board games. No doubt there were upsets, squabbles and arguments but fortunately I don't remember them.

Every time I listen to carols, I hear my Mom singing. She loved Christmas and as a Christian it meant a lot to her, the celebration of the birth of her Saviour. I hear her singing and I remember. I miss her so very much at this time of the year and I also miss all those who are no longer here; my Grandparents, a huge swathe of Great Aunties and Uncles who were always there on the fringes, well except Auntie Doris who could never be sidelined! As long as I live all these wonderful people will be remembered and not just at Christmas.
Me and Mom, Christmas c.2003


6 December 2018

Aldridge to Sivry; the long road

The Grave of James Frost from Aldridge, in Sivry, Belgium
There are days in your life when you make memories that you know will last for the rest of your life. Such a day for me and for Aiden, happened on Sunday 2 December 2018.


The story of that day starts over a hundred and twenty years before when James Frost was born in Aldridge. I wrote about him here. His life ended when he was mortally wounded on the outskirts of a tiny village in Belgium called Sivry. I now know that James wasn't the last casualty of the carnage of WW1. Although he was mortally wounded just a few minutes before the Armistice on 11th November 1918 he didn't die until a few hours later, having been taken into Sivry and cared for by the villagers there until he breathed his last.

Sivry was the most eastern point on the Western Front that the Commonwealth and Allied armies reached by the Armistice. On the edge of the village are Martinsart Woods. Here, after WW1 stood a gun, a memorial, that was a gift from British Brigadier General Guy Charles Williams to the village. The gun had been captured by 'C' Company, 9th Battalion Manchester Regiment at dawn on 18th December 1918. Unfortunately when the Germans once again invaded during WW2 they took the gun, so it was replaced after the war by a military museum in Belgium, where it stood until it was stolen in 2009! 

Sivry laid to waste
Sivry had suffered terribly when it was invaded by the Germans on 25/26 August 1914. The village was set ablaze, virtually destroyed and eleven innocent civilians were executed. You can imagine how the villagers felt when four years later four companies, A, B. C and D of the 9th Battalion Manchester Regiment made their way to, into and eventually away from Sivry. Liberation!

The villagers wanted to build a memorial where the gun had once stood to explain what had happened at the beginning and end of WW1. James Frost, my Father's first cousin was the only British soldier to die in Sivry and so part of the memorial was to commemorate him and his comrades of the 9th Battalion Manchester Regiment. A web of emails was sent out and eventually through a distant relative Martin Gilbert, contact was made with me. This is why we happened to be in Sivry.

In the kitchen
Bernard Counen is a wonderful man. He has carried out all the research that enabled the story to be told and he has been meticulous in that research and in telling the story. So it was on Sunday morning, Aiden and I found ourselves sitting in the kitchen of Bernard's lovely 17th century house right opposite the church in the centre of Sivry, with Bernard, his beautiful wife and the delightful Louise who acted as a translator for us all. She had to work very hard! We were received as old friends and made to feel so very welcome. Coffee, pink champagne and an extremely tasty tarte, hand made by Mme Counan were all consumed as we chatted amiably about Bernard's research, WW1, the village, politics, Brexit and of course James. 

The grave of James Frost
We then went to visit and pay our respects at the grave of James. The cemetery is a municipal one and is kept in a beautiful condition by the local people. There are no weeds, no rubbish. We could learn a lot from the villagers of Sivry. There near the centre lies James. A solitary CWGC grave lying very, many miles from any other such grave and even further from Aldridge. 

I laid our wreath, to lie next to one laid a couple of weeks ago by one of James's nieces, planted a cross sent by  Aldridge local historian Sue Satterthwaite (who has placed many crosses over the years on the graves of men from Aldridge who lie at rest far from home) and also planted two of the red poppies, which so recently had been part of the Field of Remembrance in Poppy Road, so that James had a little bit of home right next to him. It was emotional for me, honouring this young man, my kin, who had died so very far from home in the last minutes of WW1, a sacrifice too far perhaps?  His memory has been kept alive by the villagers of Sivry all these years and I give grateful thanks to them and to Bernard for looking after him and telling his story.

The crossroads were James was mortallly wounded
We then made our way out of the village to a crossroads. It was on this spot  that James had received his fatal injuries. A little way down the road is the Martinsart Memorial and through the middle of the road runs a line. To one side going back towards where James was injured is where the British and Commonwealth forces in the form of the 9th Battalion Manchester Regiment, had reached on their final push. To the other and dipping down before rising on a long climb to a summit, is where the Germans were defending their positions and from where the shells and bullets were fired just minutes before the Armistice.

The Line and The Martinsart Memorial
I stood at that line for a while, looking left and right, imagining what had been happening on 11/11/1918. The noise, the pain and finally for those who survived the blessed relief at the Armistice just a very short while later.

We looked at the memorial, the panels that explain the full story and reflected on events then and since then. I thought about those young men of the 9th Battalion Manchester Regiment in the last throes of the final battle before the Armistice. I thought about the villagers of Sivry who had suffered so much pain and heartache when their village was all but destroyed when invaded in 1914 and of the eleven who were brutally executed for no reason whatsoever and I thought about James. James was a village boy and it gave me some comfort that although his end was violent and so terribly unnecessary in its timing, that he lies so far from home, he is at rest in a small village not unlike the one he came from, cared for and respected by the generations that followed and not forgotten.

And once again I thought of war and its dreadful futility, waste and the suffering it brings to all involved and especially The Great War, a war that started because of quarrels and alliances between families and governments, not unlike the playground squabbles we encounter as children, that got terribly out of hand. 17 million people died in The Great War. James and those eleven villagers were part of that horrifying number.

The day was a good one despite being tinged with the sadness of the past. Good because we experienced such a warm welcome and made new friends. We shall return.

If ever you are in the south of Belgium I urge you to visit the Sivry-Rance area. It is a pretty one, undulating hills, pretty villages, lots of farms. It's not unlike England. The people of the area are friendly and welcoming. And if you do go, stop at the roadside of the Martinsart Memorial, think about the locals and their suffering during WW1 and perhaps pop by the cemetery and lay a poppy next to James.

15 November 2018

What Price a Life?

What price or cost do you put on a life?

Is it worth for example a free fortnightly brown bin collection?
Or perhaps council recycling centres being open 7 days a week at all sites?
Or free waste bulky item collections available to all residents?
Maybe free skips placed in strategic places throughout a borough?
Is a life worth a £10K pay rise to the council's chief executive, making their salary larger than the Prime Minister's for running a borough rather than a country?
Is a life worth a proposed increase in Councillors pay?
Is a life worth a proposed £2.9 million investment in council IT systems?
Or maybe you think a life is worth the cost that the council contributes towards Remembrance Day parades?

These examples are all paid for by Walsall Council via your council tax and government grants or are part of expenditure that has been agreed to be spent in the very near future.

I could go on but enough of examples of how life can be costed at a local council level, let's cut to the nitty gritty. In October the Cabinet of Walsall Council agreed to axe the Adult Community Alarm System. Apparently it is not fit for purpose. In this case read, it needs financial investment because the IT systems that it runs on are a little outdated plus apparently it costs too much to run.

What cost a life?

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The decision was taken after so called consultation with service users and those with an interest in the service who more or less wholeheartedly said they wanted the system to remain in place and be run by the Council. Most people are very happy with the service and don't notice that it is not, so it said by leaders, fit for purpose.

Adults of all ages use the service from young disabled adults to elderly adults. They all use it for the same reason; to help maintain some sort of independence whilst remaining in their own homes. Some of these adults are entitled to claim PIP or Attendance Allowance, an acknowledgment by central government that when you are disabled and/or elderly and infirm, you have increased living costs due to your disabilities. The allowances are not generous but they do help to pay for carers, transport and so on. There is no spare capacity with this money. Consider the costs of employing carers for example.

The alarm system allows for an adult who has it, to be able to push a button on a pendant worn around the neck if they have fallen or need help. The system also is connected to smoke alarms and the fire service is automatically notified if smoke is detected. Some users also have a key safe installed outside their properties so that key holders can gain easy access to the property if something awful has happened to the system user.

These are the lives. People with disabilities who wish to remain independent and by doing so save the social care and NHS millions of pounds by doing so. It isn't just the cost of providing an alarm system that should be taken into account by local councils but the whole process and what services would be affected by its abolition.

My own Father uses the service. It gives me peace of mind knowing that if he falls or has another health problem whilst I am not there, help will soon be at hand via that little button.

A few weeks ago Amy Jarvis started a petition to ask the council to reconsider what was then still a proposal to abolish the personal alarms system in  Walsall. I asked Amy why she had done this. These are her words:

"I started this petition against the cutting alarm systems based on my own experiences. My husband has primary progressive multiple sclerosis, fibromyalgia, self dislocations and rheumatoid arthritis. He is only 38. I am his carer. On 4th October,  they installed his alarm. Three weeks later I found out through the news, that the alarm system was being cut.

The alarm system doesn't just benefit my husband. It benefits me too. It means I can go out with our kids for a while, and not worry that he has fallen and injured himself, and is laying on the floor, alone.

I knew something had to be done, but didn't know what. So I started the online petition. The response to it was overwhelming, so I have since decided to collect physical signatures as well, gather stories from people who this cut will impact, and organize demonstrations and protests. Thankfully, since the online petition has reached 1500 signatures, the council now has to hold a public debate in the new year."

You can find Amy's petition HERE More signatures are needed. You will note from the wording that I reproduce below, is not political. No parties are named. Amy merely asks the Council to reconsider. There was no political prompting from a party behind her decision to start it, just her own difficult circumstances as outlined above. Amy went to the Social Services Scrutiny Committee meeting last night in an attempt to change minds. Unfortunately when it came to the vote, the councillors there did make it political by voting only per party lines.

So I ask again, what price a life? If you consider a life is worth more than some if not all the examples I gave at the start of this post then please sign the petition, please support Amy when her petition is debated at full council in January and please consider how you cast your vote in the local elections to be held in May. Let's send a strong message to our local politicians about what we consider is the price of a life.

This is the wording of the petition:

"On Wednesday 24th October, Walsall Metropolitan Borough Council, decided to scrap an alarm system that is a lifeline for many disabled adults, and elderly people across the borough. The alarm is designed to worn round the neck or wrist, and is pressed if the service user needs immediate assistance due to a fall, or similar situation. The contact centre then attempts to contact the service user, and if the service user doesn't respond, they call the listed emergency contact. This service costs the council approximately £1.3 million per year.

The service is currently used by 7000 people within the borough, both elderly and disabled. It is literally a lifeline for those who use it, not only enabling them to get emergency help, but also for their carers, who are able to take short breaks away from the home without worry of their loved one being left on the floor.

Despite spending £3 million pounds to upgrade their IT systems, it has been deemed that £1.3 million on a LIFE SAVING SYSTEM, is not 'viable'.

'The service is no longer fit for service without significant investment that the council does not have.' Councillor Rose Martin.

 In addition, there have been further cuts to adult social care within the borough. 29th September 2017 saw the permanent closure of the Independent Living Centre. The ILC offered support in terms of mobility scooter rental, aids and adaptations, occupational therapy assessments, blue badge assessments, as well as sign posting to support for benefits advice, and health and social care support. 

Early 2018 saw the closure of the Welfare Rights Team. This service offered the vulnerable and disabled, the chance to receive expert advice and support with applications for benefits and grants to improve the quality of life for those who were in need. The Welfare Rights Team now only offers a skeletal service.

 Overall, those requesting help and support from adult social services, are often being left months and months without access to services that are desparately needs, and essential for long term quality of life for the elderly and disabled. Services being cut, budgets being cut, teams being stripped to the bare minimum, are all causing extreme distress to users who need access to help and support in able to have any form of quality of life.

 We, the undersigned, hereby request Walsall Metropolitan Borough Council stop cutting essential services that are needed for quality of life in vulnerable adults."

Please sign the petition HERE



11 November 2018

Aldridge 11 11 2018 - One hundred years on

Residents of Station Road, organisers of The Poppy Project 2018 about to set off to walk Poppy Road

Walking Station Road



Red Lion

Commemoration Crosses




Not forgetting this...

Beginning to assemble


Heading the parade


The Parade


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Fly past from Emirates?














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